I'm a self-evaluator, a second and third guesser, when it comes to my interactions with other people. I walk away from a conversation thinking, "that wasn't the tone I wanted." This has primarily happened in my conversations with adults. Not any longer.
A few weeks ago, H was having a particularly challenging day and I was also challenged with keeping my cool. I picked her up and told her, "You are driving your mama nuts." She looked at me and said, "Nutsss." I realized this conversation was all wrong.
With kids, you do get second chances to correct poor conversations. We've turned it into a joke and now I ask her "What do you drive your mama?" She loves to say, "Nuts!" It's a crowd pleaser. Hopefully she won't remember that I was serious the first time I said it.
"Driving mama nuts is just a day's work for me."